I read your note and decided you pretty much explained it all (and made the format look so damn good) so instead I’ll just post my reply!
It’s 2014, B! And you are right, I am fucking excited. I have so many resolutions. ALL THE RESOLUTIONS! I hope you want to hear them because I’m going to share them. But first… I am going to recap on last years.
My Resolutions for 2013 were as follows:
1. Lose 20-30lbs.
This has been a long hard road full of calorie counting, nutrition label reading, and the dreaded…gym time. And in all honestly would never have hit my target weight if it wasn’t for my divorce launching me into “I’LL SHOW YOU! I’M GUNNA BE SMOKIN’ AND YOU’LL BE SORRY!” mode. I am now 34.5lbs down and weigh the same amount as I did when I was 20. I really feel like a bad ass.
(I will be posting something for you soon that is basically like a guidebook. Its also a reminder to me what I need to be doing and what I have fallen short on lately.)
2. Pay off Debt
Once again… this only happened because of the divorce. I paid my half of things and wiped my hands of it. I am debt free.
3. Drink more Water
I started carrying water with me everywhere and it really helped with my weight loss. I need to be doing that again this year!
4. Be a more positive person
Don’t laugh people. Miranda may be one of the few people who can actually see this. I
was am an extremely cynical human being and can just generally be a bitch. However. I am about 100X more tactful then when I met Miranda and this past year I decided to make my life better for ME. And I did. This ranged from small things like not counting my tips so I wouldn’t be petty to those who didn’t tip well at work, all the way to leaving a relationship I felt stagnant and unhappy in.
Anyways. Those were the old ones. Here are the new ones! Please help me with these.
1. Keep Up with the Health thing.
Meaning take my ass back to the gym and don’t be a slacker because I reached my goal. I need to start juicing again too so as to get some more veggies in.
2. Take a BIG trip.
I have the plans and I’m working on the funds. I’m doing this damn it!
3. Start an IRA and a savings fund.
Time to grow up I suppose.
4. Drink more Water.
I took my water bottle with me to work today and need to keep doing that. It really helps.
5. Be more positive/happier.
This is especially true for work. I made a dent last year but this year I want to make a bigger one. On the plus side I laid down the law today and told my coworkers I was going to try hard to only have positive energy at work. They all decided to join in as well so now I am the ring leader… which is almost laughable, but hey… it means they believe we can do it. I think we are all tired of the negativity.
6. Make time.
For Faith, Emily, Friends, Family, ect. Miranda love, we are taking the children to the zoo together this year. We are also going to bribe Matt one day and have a girls night. I don’t know when yet, but I WILL make time for it.
7. Write more. Dance more. Sing more.
I miss writing. Both blogs and in my nine million journals. I don’t know why I ever gave it up, but no more! Same for dancing. I miss it. I am going to do it more. Even if it’s just at home when no one is watching. And singing. I sing to Emily in the car every morning… but its not enough! (This stuff falls into more positive/happy) The best thing about me is how passionate I am… I want to indulge my passions in life instead of losing them like I was.
8. Make new friends.
The introvert in me is crying right now and I feel a bit like having a panic attack.
9. Don’t kiss all the boys.
Let’s be real. After 11 years… I am STOKED to be single. After the ups and downs and what not right after the divorce I feel like I have finally evened out and now that I realize that I NEED to just do me for a while. I need time to grow in myself and figure out how to do things with out a partner. It’s terrifying… but recently I realized it was also exhilarating. I. Am. Single. I can flirt with out guilt. I can go on a casual date. Or not. I can paint my toenails black and not shave my legs for a week. Or I can doll myself up and go out. I have lots of time to do fun stuff with Emily. I don’t have to share. I’M FREE, I’M FREE, I’M FREE!
But in all seriousness it’s tempting to go crazy. However. That’s a bad idea. So I shall keep my crazy under control. And not date anyone more than casually until my birthday in 9 months. Or possibly never… because single isn’t so bad right now.
By the way is people haven’t figure out how seriously flawed
I am we are by now, they clearly aren’t reading.